My daughter had a mini project at her high school in which they had to know what was in the playlist of a professional who would deal with a lot of stress every day. She told me about it over dinner, saying that she was aware that pressure came with my job description as a psychologist and counselor.
I laughed in amusement in response. I did not know that my daughter understood what my job entailed. After all, my clinic was not the kind of workplace where I could bring a kid at all. They could pick me up with their dad sometimes, but they had not seen me in action. If they did, well… that would be crazy.
“So, Mom,” she said, “If I open your Spotify account right now, what will I see?”
Raising an eyebrow at my daughter playfully, I asked, “What would you like to see?”
“My teacher was mostly interested in the names of the artists that you listen to, to be honest. Then, you will pick three that you like best, and you need to tell me what made you like them. Can we do it?”
“Yes, of course. Here are my choices.”
I had been listening to Clarkson songs ever since she won the first season of American Idol. Back then, her music videos were not as fancy as they are now, but the way she sang every lyric remained to hit you when you least expected it. That’s especially important because she has many songs that many people may not be able to relate to. But once you hear them, you may feel like you’ve experienced what she did. The best example of that is her song called Sober.
When you listen to the song for the first time, it would be easy to assume that it was about people who were battling substance abuse. As far as I could tell, though, Kelly Clarkson did not have that issue.
The song was also applicable if you have been surrounded by toxic people for a long time and only managed to get away from them. So, Kelly being sober and able to pick the weeds while keeping the flowers meant that she got to get rid of those bad influences in her life and kept her real friends.
P!nk was among the most underrated pop stars of all time. She had never reached the heights of Katy Perry, Demi Lovato, Christina Aguilera, and other artists – that’s a fact. But it would not be an exaggeration to claim that she was better than most of them.
The primary reason was that P!nk wrote most of her songs. It was that personal touch that made everything so much better. Every piece was also unique, and each chronicled all the ups and downs that she experienced throughout her life.
Saying that music was P!nk’s therapy would be an understatement. She was very vocal about going to marriage counseling with her husband, and it seemed like she was taking everyone along for the ride with her songs.
My favorite album of P!nk was Funhouse, which was released in 2008. If Kelly Clarkson could make you want to cry, P!nk could make you feel like an absolute badass – like the type of person who would smash things after breaking up with someone. But what I genuinely liked about the Funhouse songs was that they could inspire you to be vulnerable. After all, the lyrics showed many emotions – anger, denial, bargaining, blaming, and everything else that a person would feel after splitting with the love of their life.
I used to tell my clients, “If you can be as vulnerable as P!nk when she sings, your treatment will not take too long.”
Beyoncé’s songs are different in the sense that most of them are about female empowerment. They are the best songs to play after an entire day of exhausting work, and you need a little pick-me-up to recharge yourself. Whether you are in love, have fallen out of love, want to be in love, or need to love yourself – Queen Bey got you covered.
The best Beyoncé song for me was Love On Top. Many people would ask, “Is it because of the crazy vocals?” The answer was yes, but that was not the only reason. I saw the ascending range as a perfect representation of how someone could feel whenever they see the person they’re mooning over. It’s fast, desperate, and incredibly high. And once the song is over, you could be like, “Wow, what a rush!”
My daughter told me she got an A+ for that particular project, and I was happy for her. However, I got more excited when she said that her teacher read her paper for 15 whole minutes and said she would be taking a leaf out of my book and listening to Kelly Clarkson, P!nk, and Beyoncé. I would never know what the teacher was going through unless she would get an appointment with me, but knowing my singer choices could possibly change someone’s life was more than enough for me.…