Several songs can put down your souls and lift them up at the same time, and this song has that quality. The song “Unfaithful” is talking about a broken relationship where the girl is cheating on his guy even though she knows that the guy knows about this. In singing this song, Rihanna puts little voice cracks and high pitches that make it more dramatic. She did a fantastic job of interpreting the song.
“We all know that both sexes are guilty of infidelity and that blame for a broken relationship is not the fault of a gender, but there are several aspects of male infidelity that are more attributable to men then women.” –Katrina Bilhimer, Ma, LMHC
Story of my life
Searching for the right, but it keeps avoiding me
Sorrow in my soul cause it seems that wrong
Really loves my company
He’s more than a man, and this is more than love
The reason that the sky is blue
The clouds are rolling in because I’m gone again
And to him, I just can’t be true
The words in the first verse set the backdrop to the song. The beginning lines express the vulnerability of a woman to do the wrong things in life. She wants to do the right thing, but it seems difficult to do, and she ends up doing the ‘wrong.’ She cannot resist the wrong things she had done, and because of that, sorrow-filled her life due to unacceptable and wrongful acts. In the next few lines, the partner is being described. He is more of a man than she deserves. Their love for each other is powerful. But there is something the keeps her going back to the ‘wrong’ and their relationship is in trouble. The clouds represent the dark times happening in their life where she leaves her partner.
And I know that he knows I’m unfaithful
And it kills him inside
To know that I am happy with some other guy
I can see him dying
“In the age of instant connection and feedback, this may be a good reminder that less connection with others may be the best type of connection for your romantic relationship.” –Sam Louie MA, LMHC
It is the core of the song. Her partner knows that she is cheating on him but keep doing it. She knows that it is the most painful scenario that can happen to a man. She can see him dying inside every time she leaves the house.
I don’t wanna do this anymore
I don’t wanna be the reason why
Every time I walk out the door
I see him die a little more inside
I don’t wanna hurt him anymore
I don’t wanna take away his life
I don’t wanna be a murderer
In the chorus, the girl is feeling sorry for her bad behavior. She wants to stop all these things, she wants to end the suffering of her partner, and she doesn’t want to be the reason why he is slowly ending the love they have for each other.
I feel it in the air as I’m doing my hair
Preparing for another date
A kiss upon my cheek
As he reluctantly asks if I’m gonna be out late
I say I won’t be long, just hanging with the girls
A lie I didn’t have to tell
Because we both know where I’m about to go
And we know it very well
The second verse presents the typical situation that the couple is frequently experiencing. She is lying that she will go out to hang with her ‘girlfriends’ even though she knows that her partner is aware that she is not telling the truth. The partner asks her if she will go home late and she replies that she will not be long gone.
Our love, his trust
I might as well take a gun and put it to his head
Get it over with
I don’t wanna do this anymore, woah
The bridge is the conclusion of the situation the couple is experiencing. Trust is already broken so their love for each other faded. Without these two most important elements of a relationship, it is already fake, dull and has no meaning at all.
This is an example of a selfish kind of love. The last lines can be figuratively stated or literal in meaning, nonetheless, it tries to express that the woman prefers to end the unfaithful relationship.
“Recovering from an affair is not impossible, but it takes a lot of work. It takes commitment and a willingness to forgive and move forward.” –Donna M. White, LMHC, CACP